Understanding the three Cs” of addiction recovery: You didn’t cause it, you can’t cure it and you can’t control it.
What You Can’t Do:
#1 Make them quit.
#2 Do the work of recovery for them.
#3 Accept behavior that violates your boundaries.
What You Can Do
#1 Get educated.
#2 Take care of yourself.
#3 Talk about it.
Meghan Vivo wrote a great article on this in 2015 that really helps identify each of these items in much more detail. The items can be found here “https://www.promises.com/articles/addiction-recovery/3-things-you-can-and-cant-do-to-help-an-addicted-loved-one/”